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Here in Bristol I’m keen to promote therapy to the younger generation, and by ‘younger’ I mean people in their twenties and thirties. Naturally I’m not excluding anyone of any age from calling in on my clinic, but I have my reasoning as to why I want to appeal to a younger audience. I personally went into therapy in my mid-twenties and I’m always happy to report that it changed my life. These days I can’t imagine how my life might have been if I hadn’t. I now see how important it is to get your shit sorted out as early as possible – life is here to be enjoyed and to be contributed to, so you don’t want to be wasting any of your precious years on feeling down about stuff. For this reason I wanted to write a short post on how therapy works as many of my friends, before having their ears chewed off by me, were somewhat sceptical about the potential benefits of therapy and wondered if it would in fact work at all. Most people, I think, imagine that a therapist’s job is to sit there and hand you tissues while you cry about how miserable life is…and then keep doing this for several years until you feel a little bit better. Granted, I think some therapists do this. But there are also plenty of therapist’s who are highly skilled at helping you to get great results in a short space of time. This post explores in a very simple way how it all works.

 

 

Epictetus, the Greek philosopher of the Stoic tradition, born around 55AD (don’t go falling asleep now), is variously quoted as stating that, “Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen”. What he meant by this is that it is the way we interpret things, rather than the things themselves, that causes emotional unrest in human beings. Critics of this idea would, quite rightly in my opinion, state that being abused, raped, or tortured is hardly a question of ‘how you chose to look at it’. While the strictest Epictetusian would stick to his guns, I’m sure that for most people basic humanity cannot help but over-rule the belief in this circumstance. What is important however is how you chose to interpret the event after the fact. How has it altered your perception of the world, other people, and ultimately yourself? This is something that you can have control over, and indeed you must, if you are to remain mentally healthy. Before we get bogged down in the grizzlies of life let’s move swiftly on to how therapy actually works?

 

 

Naturally, different therapists have different views about how best to treat various symptoms and problems. But I’ve tried to whittle it down to what I believe is the core process of therapy. Some people may disagree with me and that’s fine, give me a call and we can go for a pint sometime to discuss it. For now though I believe that it looks something like this: Life is a self-suggested experience – the therapist’s job is to help you understand the conscious or subconscious reasons as to why you’re suggesting it to your self in the way that you are. Simple!...ish.

 

 

Let’s see an example. Imagine that you suffer from low self-esteem. Conventional thinking is that your level of self-esteem is fairly fixed and may have become fixed in your childhood or in your teenage years. In reality however your self-esteem is actually the by-product of how you are talking to yourself either consciously or unconsciously each and every moment of the day. Therefore if you perpetually have low self-esteem the therapist’s job is to help you to identify the reasons as to why you are talking yourself down and to help you resolve the issue in the most effective way.

 

 

Let’s see another example – one for the guys. Imagine that you keep going ‘soft’ at a time when it’s most important to be ‘hard’. I’ll let you decide if this is about bravery or penises. In certain moments in life you can be overcome by performance anxiety. Performance anxiety takes place because of the type of self-talk, or self-suggestions that you are giving yourself, either consciously or unconsciously. My job therefore is to help you to understand the reasons why you are doing it to yourself and to help you change it, unless of course there is a genuine medical reason for your penis and/or bravery not working!

 

 

So there it is. While therapists from different backgrounds just love to scrap about different theories they all, as far as I can see, boil down to the same basic principal: locate the stuff that’s bothering you, analyse how you’re interpreting it and how your interpretations are having an effect on you, then chuck it all out. Once you’ve ditched the baggage, life suddenly becomes a hell of a lot easier and a hell of a lot more enjoyable.

 

 

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Sebastian Eastwood is a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and counsellor in full-time private practice in Bristol, UK.

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Sebastian Eastwood is a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and counsellor in full-time private practice in Bristol, UK.

The Bristol Psychotherapy

& Hypnotherapy Clinic

Sebastian Eastwood is a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and counsellor in full-time private practice in Bristol, UK.

Sebastian Eastwood is a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and counsellor in full-time private practice in Bristol, UK.

© SEBASTIAN T. EASTWOOD-BLOOM 2018

Sebastian Eastwood is a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, and counsellor in full-time private practice in Bristol, UK.

how therapy works

 

 

Here in Bristol I’m keen to promote therapy to the younger generation, and by ‘younger’ I mean people in their twenties and thirties. Naturally I’m not excluding anyone of any age from calling in on my clinic, but I have my reasoning as to why I want to appeal to a younger audience. I personally went into therapy in my mid-twenties and I’m always happy to report that it changed my life. These days I can’t imagine how my life might have been if I hadn’t. I now see how important it is to get your shit sorted out as early as possible – life is here to be enjoyed and to be contributed to, so you don’t want to be wasting any of your precious years on feeling down about stuff. For this reason I wanted to write a short post on how therapy works as many of my friends, before having their ears chewed off by me, were somewhat sceptical about the potential benefits of therapy and wondered if it would in fact work at all. Most people, I think, imagine that a therapist’s job is to sit there and hand you tissues while you cry about how miserable life is…and then keep doing this for several years until you feel a little bit better. Granted, I think some therapists do this. But there are also plenty of therapist’s who are highly skilled at helping you to get great results in a short space of time. This post explores in a very simple way how it all works.

 

 

Epictetus, the Greek philosopher of the Stoic tradition, born around 55AD (don’t go falling asleep now), is variously quoted as stating that, “Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen”. What he meant by this is that it is the way we interpret things, rather than the things themselves, that causes emotional unrest in human beings. Critics of this idea would, quite rightly in my opinion, state that being abused, raped, or tortured is hardly a question of ‘how you chose to look at it’. While the strictest Epictetusian would stick to his guns, I’m sure that for most people basic humanity cannot help but over-rule the belief in this circumstance. What is important however is how you chose to interpret the event after the fact. How has it altered your perception of the world, other people, and ultimately yourself? This is something that you can have control over, and indeed you must, if you are to remain mentally healthy. Before we get bogged down in the grizzlies of life let’s move swiftly on to how therapy actually works?

 

 

Naturally, different therapists have different views about how best to treat various symptoms and problems. But I’ve tried to whittle it down to what I believe is the core process of therapy. Some people may disagree with me and that’s fine, give me a call and we can go for a pint sometime to discuss it. For now though I believe that it looks something like this: Life is a self-suggested experience – the therapist’s job is to help you understand the conscious or subconscious reasons as to why you’re suggesting it to your self in the way that you are. Simple!...ish.

 

 

Let’s see an example. Imagine that you suffer from low self-esteem. Conventional thinking is that your level of self-esteem is fairly fixed and may have become fixed in your childhood or in your teenage years. In reality however your self-esteem is actually the by-product of how you are talking to yourself either consciously or unconsciously each and every moment of the day. Therefore if you perpetually have low self-esteem the therapist’s job is to help you to identify the reasons as to why you are talking yourself down and to help you resolve the issue in the most effective way.

 

 

Let’s see another example – one for the guys. Imagine that you keep going ‘soft’ at a time when it’s most important to be ‘hard’. I’ll let you decide if this is about bravery or penises. In certain moments in life you can be overcome by performance anxiety. Performance anxiety takes place because of the type of self-talk, or self-suggestions that you are giving yourself, either consciously or unconsciously. My job therefore is to help you to understand the reasons why you are doing it to yourself and to help you change it, unless of course there is a genuine medical reason for your penis and/or bravery not working!

 

 

So there it is. While therapists from different backgrounds just love to scrap about different theories they all, as far as I can see, boil down to the same basic principal: locate the stuff that’s bothering you, analyse how you’re interpreting it and how your interpretations are having an effect on you, then chuck it all out. Once you’ve ditched the baggage, life suddenly becomes a hell of a lot easier and a hell of a lot more enjoyable.

 

 

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